Begin today by pausing to feel and accept that you are the beloved of Love. This is not selfish or self-indulgent, because when we know we are beloved, we do not act unconsciously out of our insecurity with a need to compete, judge, or prove anything. We carry our sense of belonging with us and don't need others to give it to us. When we feel whole ourselves, we give and support others in healthier, more discerning, more useful ways.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.