Living and loving well requires us to make difficult choices each day of our lives. The heart-opening unconditional love we seek requires our heart's best time and attention. Love, friendship, children, kindness, good and fruitful work--all these things need time, accompanied by our full, unhurried, undistracted attention. Because the sheer number of hours in a day is limited, we much choose where, when, and with whom we will share whatever brief time and attention we have.
Here is where most of us fall apart. We have convinced ourselves that we can keep taking on more and more, just this one more thing, one more task, relationship, commitment. But at the end of the day, nothing ever receives the benefit of our best love, care, attention. . . .
Once we have reached this moment of fullness, of satiation--of enough--we can only pick up a new egg if we carefully take at least one from the existing pile in our hands and gently put it down. We must let something go. This is no judgement about our ability, skillfulness, or power. It is simply the inevitable physics of a human life.