"Grief and loss and suffering, even depression and spiritual crisis - the dark nights of the soul - only worsen when we try to ignore or deny or avoid them. The healing journey begins when we face them and learn out to work with them. When we stop fighting against our difficulties and find the strength to meet our demons and difficulties head on, we often find that we emerge stronger and more humble and grounded than we were before. To survive our difficulties is to become initiated into the fraternity of wisdom. The real tragedy is when we refuse to acknowledge and respect our own suffering, and instead spread it unconsciously to others."