Today, when strong emotions or memories arise in you, first let Love hold them. At his point, you don't need to understand them, analyze them, justify, or criticize them. Just let Love hold them with strength and gentleness, and without judgement. Begin there. Then, in time, whatever you need to know or understand will be revealed.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.