We tend to be ashamed of any physical or emotional weakness or vulnerability in ourselves; therefore, we deny and ignore it, shame it, or try to overcome it with force of will and by controlling ourselves or others. All of these are temporary and ineffective fixes. We must respond to our places of weakness and vulnerability with great tenderness and unconditional love - and without blame. Embrace yourself with compassion. This is not the same as indulging yourself with self-justification and pity, which ultimately exacerbates the shame cycle. This is letting the love of Love flow through you and accepting you are worthy, no matter your circumstances. This habit of self-compassion around weakness will lead you to clarity, strength, and an open heart.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.