Instead of worrying that if you don't exercise, you'll have all kinds of negative consequences, ask what kind of gifts your body would like to day and give them.
Instead of worrying that your messy house (or something similar) is deteriorating into chaos and a symbol of all your failures, ask what gifts you can give your house and the people in it.
Instead of worrying that you are not fulfilling your creative goals, ask what gifts you can give your creativity.
Instead of worrying about others and imagining that you are responsible for solving their problems, ask what gifts you can give.
Giving is fun and makes our heart light and full. Giving lifts burdens.