It is not selfish to take time out to feel Love's love for you, embracing you with tenderness and delight and without blame or judgement. When we can really feel and accept this love and approval, we act from healthy and whole places, are able to see how to make change, and have clearer discernment. We can better see and feel Love's love for others, too, which is the nutrient and support they most need.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.