We absorb these beliefs and learn how to treat ourselves. As an adult, it is our job to shed unhealthy ways of treating ourselves and learn to be wise parents for ourselves, to attend with compassion, to our genuine needs. Maybe we need to learn to feed and rest ourselves well. Maybe we need to learn to feel our feelings - or let go of the habit of drama. Maybe we need to draw firmer boundaries with other people - or reach out for more connection.