One way that Love communicates with us is through our emotions, which can be finely tuned receivers for truth and guidance. However, we often muddle the signals by not being honest with ourselves about our experience: we try too hard to be who others want us to be or who we think we should be, or, if our experience goes against the prevailing view of reality, we distrust ourselves instead of challenging the story we have been offered.
Wayne Muller in Legacy of the Heart, writes, "When we are able to honestly name our fear, our sadness, and confusion - when we can meet ourselves, just as we are, with acceptance and compassion - then we cultivate the possibility of authentic loving-kindness toward ourselves. Without the truth, we may learn to accept who we appear to be, but what we are accepting is a lie."