For some of us, our greatest suffering comes not from our actions, but our self-doubt about our actions, our indecisiveness, our fear that whatever we have done is not the "right thing." In our prayer, we regularly ask for guidance. We need to trust that we are indeed being guided and ask instead to be healing of our waffling and fear, our distrust of ourselves. That is the source of our suffering. Love has the power to touch and transform that delusion.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.