Sometimes our stress and anxiety, our stuffed schedule and overwork, is an effort to avoid sadnesses lingering under the surface. Part of self-care, then, is to pause and acknowledge the presence of those sadnesses, make room for them, as you would sad little children. Give them some space and care. Find small but meaningful ways to comfort. (That might mean merely acknowledging the sadnesses' existence and feelings - giving a little attention. It might mean honest words of a wiser perspective and reassurance. It might mean slowing down a bit and making room for rest or play.) Know that Love is there, wrapping those sadnesses in tenderness and care.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.