Today, in the midst of the holidays, when some of us are so easily triggered by past memories and feelings of inadequacy, practice extreme kindness with yourself. Speak kind and soothing words to yourself. Move more slowly if you need to. Attend to needs of your body for rest, nourishment, and movement. Forgive yourself for errors big, small, and imagined. When your mind wants to busily judge you and reform your flaws, just hush soothing words over yourself. With others, also, err on the side of kindness.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.