If you have a pattern of withdrawing and isolating when you feel upset or hurt, practice reaching out. Wayne Muller writes, "The habit of our emotional seclusion only serves to bring additional violence to ourselves, denying ourselves the gift of sharing the sorrows and joys of being human." Practice speaking your authentic experience to someone you trust. Let go of false beliefs that you must always be independent, that you must never appear weak or flawed, that in your vulnerability, you will be wounded again. Accept the gifts others want to give you.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.