Caring for ourself is not selfishness and does not need to come at the cost of caring for others. Your relationship with yourself is the most intimate you have, so the perfect place to learn and practice how to offer real, healthy, sustaining care. Practicing care for yourself, and discovering what you can learn from it, gives you skill and wisdom in caring for others. You must treat yourself as if you are as holy and worthy as any other creature on earth.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.