Jungian Psychologist James Hollis in Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life says we "flee into our work to avoid our real job." Our real job is listening for what our soul wants and shedding old patterns and impulses which don't serve us and can cause suffering to others. It requires taking responsibility for this journey and not blaming others or looking to experts.
Paul's letter to the Thessolonians includes this: "We beseech you . . . that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands . . . that ye may walk honestly toward them that are without and that ye may have lack of nothing."
Today, humbly take responsibility for yourself and let your service to others spring from wisdom and love instead of any warped need to define yourself or avoid your own work.