Today, treat all your emotions with tenderness. This is not the same of indulging or justifying our feelings, not the same as blaming others. It means treating all that arises in you with kindness, like you would a small child. It means making room for feelings, listening to them, making soothing sounds to them. Contrary to your fears, this will not amplify your feelings, nor give them too much power; contrarily, when your feelings feel heard and seen, they shrink to proper proportion. Do not argue with them, war with them, or be afraid of them. Let go of shame for having them. Embrace all parts of yourself with unconditional love.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.