I had a therapist once who noticed how stuck I got in making decisions, how much I wanted to please everyone, so much so that I did not even know my own mind. To help me identify what I thought and felt, she would ask, "What would you do if no one cared?" (And most of the time, no one does care.)
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.