"The way we deal with loss shapes our capacity to be present to life more than anything else. The way we protect ourselves from loss may be the way in which we distance ourselves from life. Protecting ourselves from loss rather then grieving and healing our losses is one of the major causes of burnout . . . . Grieving is a way of self-care . . . You grieve because it's of help to you. It enables you to go forward after loss. It heals you so you are able to love again. 'On to the next' is a denial of a common humanity . . . It is a rejection of wholeness, of a human connection that is fundamental."
In her book Kitchen Table Wisdom, Rachel Naomi Remen urges us to grieve our losses and disappointments (particularly in professions, such as medicine, which traditionally encourage repression in the name of professionalism.)
"The way we deal with loss shapes our capacity to be present to life more than anything else. The way we protect ourselves from loss may be the way in which we distance ourselves from life. Protecting ourselves from loss rather then grieving and healing our losses is one of the major causes of burnout . . . . Grieving is a way of self-care . . . You grieve because it's of help to you. It enables you to go forward after loss. It heals you so you are able to love again. 'On to the next' is a denial of a common humanity . . . It is a rejection of wholeness, of a human connection that is fundamental."
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AuthorTarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com. Archives
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