"When we interfere, we may miss out on or even interrupt the subtler dimensions of the dying experience. No matter how noble our intentions, we need to resist the temptation to act on our own biases or impose our well-meaning advice or spiritual beliefs on people who are dying."
We can translate this into how we accompany anyone who is going through a major transition. Admit to yourself that there may be deeper patterns and needs at work that you cannot discern. Recognize that you may be covering your own sense of helpless, fear of the unknown, or need to feel in control with strong opinions.
Ostaseki advises, instead, being present with someone with stillness and compassion, remaining--to the best of our ability--clear and calm.