Today, treat your own emotions the same way. Don't push them away or try to cover them or fight them. Don't over-attend to them with fear. Hold them with respect and good humor. Gently ask if they have some important information for you; if they don't, let them have their little dramatic moment and pass away, without worry.
Think about those people in your lives who have big feelings, but you are not afraid of them (either them or their feelings). You don't feel the need to fix them or their lives. You treat them with kindness and good humor. You don't dismiss their feelings, but you don't get stirred up about them either. You know, with certainty, they have the capacity to deal with their difficulties. Even when they become dramatic, you stay still and steady because you are full of trust.
Today, treat your own emotions the same way. Don't push them away or try to cover them or fight them. Don't over-attend to them with fear. Hold them with respect and good humor. Gently ask if they have some important information for you; if they don't, let them have their little dramatic moment and pass away, without worry.
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Here is one of the ways we trick ourselves:
We imagine that we have responsibility for things that are not our job or out of our control and spend lots of energy fretting over them. We resist or avoid those important things over which we do have some influence, maybe because we are scared of change, weariness, disappointment, conflict, or not meeting our own unrealistic standards. Today, you don't need to make any changes. Just notice. Notice where your mind focuses its attention and efforts. Ask yourself, "Is that my responsibility?" Be willing to look at anything you have may been avoiding with your grandiose guilt about not saving the world. It is not selfish to take time out to feel Love's love for you, embracing you with tenderness and delight and without blame or judgement. When we can really feel and accept this love and approval, we act from healthy and whole places, are able to see how to make change, and have clearer discernment. We can better see and feel Love's love for others, too, which is the nutrient and support they most need.
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AuthorTarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com. Archives
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