Today, when faced with your own difficult emotions, questions, or character traits, begin first with kindness and compassion for yourself--before you attempt to correct, or even understand, yourself. When the part of you that is confused, fearful, ignorant, or compulsive feels fully safe and loved, only then can it begin to trust enough to see new ways and to let go of patterns of behavior that feel self-protective, but which may not be serving you. The Great Kindness itself supports you in this process.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.