You also don't have to feel ready to face a fear, aim for a goal, make a positive change. Ellen Hendricksen writes in her book on social anxiety, How to Be Yourself: "There is a myth that you have to feel confident to be ready. In truth, you gain confidence by doing things before you are ready, while you are still scared. . . . Rather than waiting until we feel ready, we can get out there to practice, and our confidence will catch up. . . . While you are in the early stages, base your achievement on what you do rather than how you feel. . . . Your anxiety isn't credible, so don't ask it for feedback. Instead, look at what you did. Let your accomplishment be the measure of your success."
Today, do what you know is good for you, even if you don't want to. You don't have to wait for the desire before you make good choices. You can even complain and grouse like a petulant child, if you want.
You also don't have to feel ready to face a fear, aim for a goal, make a positive change. Ellen Hendricksen writes in her book on social anxiety, How to Be Yourself: "There is a myth that you have to feel confident to be ready. In truth, you gain confidence by doing things before you are ready, while you are still scared. . . . Rather than waiting until we feel ready, we can get out there to practice, and our confidence will catch up. . . . While you are in the early stages, base your achievement on what you do rather than how you feel. . . . Your anxiety isn't credible, so don't ask it for feedback. Instead, look at what you did. Let your accomplishment be the measure of your success."
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AuthorTarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com. Archives
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