Without realizing it, we can sometimes imagine God as an authority figure, a boss or an exacting parent, to whom we feel we must present our best selves and make a good impression. But God wants to hold all parts of us. God is more like the wise and loving friend with whom we can share all the complicated and weak and ignorant and confused and immature parts of ourselves and be held with absolute compassion and understanding and forgiveness. Trust that there is nothing too big or hard or dark for God to hold with you. This kind of honesty, openness, and trust is the beginning of real growth.
Tarn Wilson is the author of the memoir The Slow Farm and numerous essays. You may read more of her work at tarnwilson.com.