"Growing up with a scarcity of love and care in our families, many of us are reluctant to be too generous or loving with ourselves. To be kind to ourselves seems self-centered and selfish . . . But love for others and love for ourselves is not mutually exclusive. . . . Loving kindness does not require that we decide who will be deprived; there is enough care available for everyone. . . .When we attend to ourselves with compassion and mercy, more healing is available for others. And when we serve others with a generous and open heart, great healing comes to us."